Me: Random question for you, is it weird if I text Anthony? I haven't heard anything from him since our date...which is fine...but would texting him be too much? Rachel sometimes I am bad at this dating game and social rules and such. I was just going to text him about a book we were discussing that I am almost done reading, but should I just wait and be patient? Or maybe he changed his mind about seeing me again..I don't know...Should I? Shouldn't I? (Okay, this sounds like a freak out text message..I am really not freaking out as much as it probably sounds. Haha. ;) )
Rachel: Hahaha--I TOTALLY understand what you mean!!!!!!! I have had this same sort of thing happen to me a thousand times. Steven and I have talked to him and he reacted really positively--he said he would go out with you again. I think if you wanna text him about that book, you should! Steven thinks it wouldn't be to your downfall at all :)
So, naturally I waited a day to text him. I felt a lot better after she told me that he would go out with me again, so I didn't feel as weird texting him.
Me: Anthony! I am almost done with Well of Ascension and I can't put it down. :) These are some of the best books I have ever read! I can't wait to see what will happen in the Hero of Ages. Seriously, I am not sure how anyone ever gets anything done while reading Brandon Sanderson.
Anthony: Caitlin! You've beaten me to the punch, much to my chagrin- I was planning on calling you this very day after work to see if you wanted to go out again next weekend. :) What think ye? And I'm so glad you're liking it! Sanderson books are, you might say, volatile in that way-so good, it almost hurts to do anything else until you're through with them ;p
Me: I think that would be a glorious idea. :) I am so sorry for the anguish I caused from beating you. ;) I just got really excited about the 2nd book and was eager to share with someone who has read it and understands the pain. :)
Anthony: Haha that I do.
After this I didn't hear back from him for four days. I was honestly annoyed at his lack of communication. I didn't understand why he would tell me that he would call and then didn't. After reading the text again, I figured he probably would have assumed the text was in place of the phone call. I had to work extremely hard on not being to judgmental on why he hadn't contacted me. I am trying to work on watching for patterns rather than one experience of concern.
Anthony: Caitlin! I'm very sorry that it hasn't been until now that I've contacted you about the plan for this weekend - I got a little under the weather last weekend, and then I had a bunch of duties to take care of yesterday and the day before...Anyway, sorry for the delay! So, the first question for you is - does Friday night work for you? :) ...Or has my unfortunate delays made it too late for that day? :(
Me: No worries! :) I am sorry to hear that you weren't doing well, I hope you are feeling better. :) Friday night works great for me. :)
Thursday
Anthony: Delays, delays, nothing but delays! I'm so sorry that I'm running so far behind again! So...I'm usually a huge humbug when it comes to seeing movies on dates, since movies preclude talking -and thus the whole point of a date - but I might need to make an exception and take you to see a superb new movie that I thought had an incredible message to share - if you're good for it, that is. :) Have you seen Inside Out yet? There IS a correct answer here ;) And then we would go out for a bite and conclude properly with much conversation :) What think ye?
Me: It is all good. :) I have not seen it yet. :) I would most certainly be up for seeing it with you tomorrow, especially if it comes with such a great recommendation. ;) What time are you thinking? :)
Anthony: When do you get off tomorrow?
Me: I get off at 3. :)
Anthony: Okay so there's a showing at 4:00, and there's one at 5:00, both at University Mall. Perhaps we could plan on the 4:00, and use the 5:00 as a contingency plan, in case traffic is bad? Does that sound good?
Me: That sounds perfect! :) Have a wonderful evening. I will see you tomorrow. :)
Anthony: Great! I'm looking forward to it!
He then clarified later that he would pick me up at 3:15. I prayed to my Father in heaven to let me not let any frustration about the times of lapses in communication. I need to be aware of looking to see how it works out in the future but now is not the time to have it be a deal breaker. I also prayed that I would be able to act authentically and that I would be able to act like myself on the date. Often, I become too nervous on a date that I either become insanely shy or I force saying things for fear of a break in conversation. I was able to calm down before the date and I felt like I would be able to give him a real chance by the time he picked me up.
(06/26/15) He came a couple minutes late but because I knew that he might hit traffic I wasn't too worried. I sat in the living room with Kaeley, playing with my Rubik's Cube. I could tell I was still nervous because I kept forgetting the algorithms. When he came he asked if he could wash his hands, I looked down to find his poor hands covered in blood. He sadly told me that he got a bloody nose on his way to pick me up. Poor guy. After that it was pretty smooth sailing. We went and saw the movie, which turned out to be fantastic. Then we went to dinner at Panda Express. He told me stories from his mission and we talked about the recent court ruling of Gay Marriage. I had a wonderful time with him and all of the lack of communication didn't seem to matter anymore.
The most awkward part of the date was when he dropped me off. We went up to my door at my apartment and I told him that I don't normally like movie dates but that this was an exception. I thanked him for dinner and the movie, we hugged goodbye and then I started to try and find my keys in my purse. No, this was not on purpose, and I was not trying to mimic the movie Hitch. ;) My purse is not organized, at all. They of course were buried at the bottom underneath all of the 'useful' things I keep with me on a daily basis. He turned back and realized I was still looking for my keys and in a very gentleman manner let me know that he should make sure I have them so I wouldn't be left stranded. I then told him that I carry way too much stuff with me and sometimes I carry a Rubik's Cube with me just in case I get bored sometimes. (Face Palm...What in the world was I even saying?..Oh dear!) He laughed..and then I luckily managed to touch my keys quickly. He left and I made a quick trip to the restroom. I then received a text message from him. It had only been a few minutes...that was strange.
Anthony: Hey, Random question: there's a black and white cat walking around out here with a collar, but no tag. You wouldn't happen to know who it belongs to, would you...?
Oh, he was still outside. I hurried and finished going to the bathroom and walked out in back to where he had parked. There is a lovely grassy area near the parking lot and that is where I saw him chilling on the grass with a darling cat cuddled up next to him. I told him I didn't know who the cat belonged to but that I often had seen him around before. He then proceeded to get up and to start heading back to his car, and he said something like, just thought I would check, sorry to bother you...To which I awkwardly replied while twisting my foot back and forth and throwing a hand up in the air that it "was okay, cause well, I like spending time with you, Anthony." To which he replied that he does too....Spending time with me..not himself...err...to which I laughed and told him I knew what he meant. He then said that we should continue doing things together. We then said goodbye, again. Could I have been anymore awkward about it? Seriously, I should write a book, "How to Survive as an Awkward
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